"Making that first phone call was the most difficult I have ever made. It was also one of the most important."
Bereavement and other losses can leave us with heartache and pain for months and years.
My name is Simon Arthur and I can help you to recover from the pain of grief. I have been helping people and organisations to develop personally and professionally for more than 30 years.
I've just completed my training as an Advanced Grief Recovery Specialist with the Grief Recovery Institute. This means that I can now not only offer Grief Recovery programmes face to face, but also online through video link. So, if you feel stuck or struggling with the pain of your loss, contact me so you can find out more
If you are reading this you are probably hurting and maybe confused about what is going on in your head and your heart as the result of loss such as a bereavement. Read on – you are experiencing grief which is a normal and natural reaction to loss. Grief can do strange things to us and we are often uncertain and sometimes frightened by those feelings which may feel out of character and “just not like me!” Bereavement isn't the only loss we can experience, but its effects can sometimes be the most immediate and apparent.
Grief is something we all experience and yet we often find it hard to talk about it to other people, or even think about it ourselves. Often other peoples’ reactions make it harder. We may be told “ don’t get upset, she’s out of pain/in a better place now”. That might not be what you are feeling, which may be more like “ I miss her so much, I feel like there is a hole in my body, I am so angry that he did not go to the GP......." etc.
Unresolved grief can sit in our heads and hearts for years and we may experience emotions of sadness, pain, isolation and hopelessness. We may withdraw from people and activities we used to enjoy and spend more time stuck living life on auto pilot or just existing and getting through our days/months/years. Our feelings and their causes can be buried for years.
People tell us we need to "let go" or "move on" after a loss, but they don’t
tell us how. The Grief Recovery Method® gives us the steps not only to identify
why we are feeling as we are, but also to move through the pain and heartache.
Do you feel:
• Overwhelming pain when you you think about the person you've lost?
• You just can't talk or think about them?
• You are just ‘coping ’ or ‘getting by ’?
• Focused on the loss itself, rather than the whole relationship?
• The happiness, fun and joy has gone out of your life since your loss?
• 'Stuck’ in a bad place?
If you answered 'Yes' to any of the above, you are probably experiencing unresolved grief
Unresolved Grief comes from emotional ’loose ends’ in a relationship with someone or something we have lost. I am a qualified Grief Recovery specialist and can help you in several ways – you can either work in a supportive group, or on a one to one basis.
Unresolved grief is powerful and pervasive and the Grief Recovery Method® needs you to be emotionally honest and committed to the process. I will support and help you move on with your life if you are serious about making a commitment to yourself.
Now may be just the right time for you to take these steps.
"You made me feel relaxed and able to be completely open and talk about very personal feelings without feeling uncomfortable or awkward which I didn’t think was possible with someone I had just met."
I know that reaching out for help when you are experiencing the pain and heartbreak of loss can feel like the most difficult thing to do. No matter how long ago or how recent your loss, if you want to take the first steps away from pain and towards renewed happiness, please contact me and we can discuss how I can best help you. To find out more about grief and Grief Recovery, click here.
Phone: 01263 514642
Mobile: 07757 157013
I also work with organisations facing issues of loss for staff or clients. Get in touch if your staff need help in coming back to work after loss or to find out more about how your organisation can deal with loss and grief. See the bottom of the Grief Recovery page on this site for more details.
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